The new rules of dating—there are no rules! Changes in all aspects of modern life, especially with technology, make dating more accessible by enabling singles across all lifestyles and regions the opportunity to find love. Unlike the previous decade of limited prospects and geographic boundaries, dating has become less of a defined art and more of a no-nonsense playing field—meaning your mom’s dating rules, need-not apply. Go ahead and trash your beloved copy of “He’s Just Not That Into You,” and get on board with a modern approach to dating.
So Yesterday: The 3-Day Rule
For those not familiar with this one, this age-old dating decree states both parties should wait a minimum of 72 hours before initiating contact, lest one of you appears desperate. The agony of waiting three whole days for the phone to ring is even more harrowing in today’s tech-driven world. Don’t let those first date sparks fizzle out on account of dated courtship statues, make the first move. Cosmopolitan reveals a whopping 87 percent of dudes said they love getting a text from a girl after a date. If you truly enjoyed your time, a simple text the next day to let him know is a genuine sentiment that goes a long way. Word to the serial dater—once you’ve sent the text, leave it at that. Resist the urge to over text or request friendship on social media. Take it slow and keep in mind communication is a two way street.
So Last Week: Play Hard to Get
The means of meeting and actively seeking like-minded singles have significantly increased over the years. If you’ve met the man of your dreams, remember, it’s likely you’re not the only one who thinks so. Playing hard to get will only push him into the arms of another, more available suitor with your same qualities. Plus, 33 percent more men than women around the world say it bothers them that their significant other isn’t more romantic, according to Readers Digest. Romance him with subtle gestures that keep him interested without coming on too strong. For example, say thank you for dinner with dessert. Schedule a delivery of sweet and sexy chocolate covered strawberries and long stem roses for a sweet surprise that’s thoughtful yet understated.
So Last Year: Long Distance Will Never Work
You hit it off with a the perfect guy, only he lives miles away. Whether he’s in town visiting a friend, here for work or simply passing through, don’t turn down a date due to distance. If you made a love connection that’s geographically challenged, your post date etiquette is less defined, making any rules obsolete. As an added bonus, the fact that you live far apart means you’re forced to communicate as much as possible without feeling like you’re over-stepping the dating boundaries. After a successful first date, send him a thoughtful note to let him know you’re interested in seeing him again. Using apps like Cartolina Postale make it easy to send a real 4 X 6 vintage-style postcard from your iPhone. Simply snap a picture with your phone or upload an existing pic, and add it to any of their 32 whimsical templates. The app takes care of the rest by delivering your love notes anywhere your future beau resides.