Calling Your Own Shots!


My favorite month is October. It’s the month of short days, Halloween, and pumpkin pie. I always loved October growing up in a suburb of Seattle. The crispness in the air, the leaves crunching beneath my feet and fireplaces crackling. It makes me think of magic. I believe in magic and practice it daily. There is magic in everything I see, from the way the candle on my desk flickers, the way life just flows, the connection I have with my dog best friend, Macie to the magical matches I make between people in my work.


I’m reading a fantastic book right now called Wisdom Meets Passion, by Dan Miller and his son Jared Angaza. Back in 2009, I was working as the VP of matchmaking at a high- end Beverly Hills Matchmaking service. I had been there for about seven years. Including the commute, my work day lasted ten hours, Monday-Friday. I had two weeks vacation per year. Even though I managed to write books on the side, as a creative outlet, I was very unhappy. Many of the clients I worked with were terribly shallow and demanding, my boss was unethical, and the schedule was keeping me from time with my family.

I looked forward to that four dollar vanilla soy latte from a fancy coffee shop on my way to the office, and feeling exhausted and stressed out when I got home at 7:30 in the evening, I more often than not, reached for the bottle of chardonnay or scotch to go with my take out dinner enjoyed in bed watching Larry King. The pounds were piling on and my positivity was plummeting. Oh how I longed to be my own boss…. pull my own strings, make my own schedule.

I remember one night Larry King had a show about people with unusual jobs. One of the guests was a man who went around to barns and locations out in the boonies to collect bat guano (yep, bat shit) to sell. I listened with great interest as he described his fascinating career choice. I was intrigued to say the least. Here was a guy who was his own boss. He was calling the shots, walking around in nature, in the fresh air, on his own timeline, without a boss breathing down his neck. Where could I get a job like that? I was actually envious of a guy that went around searching for bat shit. When I told my husband, he thought I’d lost my mind. “You work n Beverly Hills! You have a beautiful office! A lot of people would love to have your job,” he reminded me…. often…



But, deep down inside, I knew that I needed to be my own boss. I dreamed of working from my home office. Even thought at that time, we lived in a small apartment and my writing space consisted of a small piece of furniture in the corner of the living room.

I heard about Dan Miller’s book, No More Mondays, now re-titled, No More Dreaded Mondays, which is even more appropriate. I ordered it from Amazon and started taking that to bed with me every night with my scotch. I read and re-read that book like a Bible. I let the ideas sink in and started writing down affirmations in a notebook that I was my own boss, working from my home office in our three bedroom house with a pool in the valley.

I am thrilled to say that my dream came true and I’m writing this post from my home office in our 3 bedroom house. AND I just came in from taking a nice dip in the pool! I am in  love with owning my own business and making my own schedule. It’s amazing looking back to that interview on Larry King and to where I am now, all from some ideas out of Dan Miller’s book and some magical thinking!

What is the magic that you see in your life?

How have you changed things to align with your true self?