Single moms have a lot of responsibilities and things to juggle, and the last thing they need is a man who isn’t ready to accept her and her kids into his life. Ain’t nobody got time for that. Dating a woman with children may be new to you, but it isn’t rocket science. If you really want to take it to the next level with her, you simply have to do a little extra preparation to make her feel secure and confident. Here are four things you should absolutely do to show her you’re honestly enthused to date a woman with children.
Respect her kids
Children are much more perceptive than you think. They know when you’re not being genuine, or when you’re just making small talk with them to appease their mother. If you want to seriously consider becoming a part of this family, you need to make as much effort getting to know her kids as you are getting to know her. Show respect for their feelings, and remind yourself that your actions affect their lives now. Single mom lifestyle expert Kerri Zane explains to men they need to know her kids always come first — but “single moms have an amazing capacity for sharing all their love with everyone.”
Make your place kid-friendly
No, you don’t have to baby-proof your entire house, putting security latches on cabinets and bumpers on all the sharp edges. You should, however, make an attempt to create some sort of haven for her kids if you want her to come over regularly. Consider arranging a spot for her children to take naps. This will show her that you’re considerate of her schedule and her children’s needs. Stock a spare room with pillows, blankets, stuffed animals and any other specific items she may need. If she has a baby, keep a package of diapers and wipes on hand, as well as a portable crib and a sleeping sack, which is a wearable blanket that’s a safe alternative to loose blankets for sleep time.
Don’t always push for a babysitter
Sure, you need alone time to get to know each other as adults. Children’s movies aren’t always ideal, and the local Red Robin isn’t exactly a good place for a romantic dinner. But if you’re always suggesting she get a sitter, she will begin to feel stressed out and upset. If you never want to spend time with kids, than you need to date someone who doesn’t have them. There’s no shame in that. But if you want to date her, you need to find whatever balance works for the two of you when including her kids in your dates.
Be open to falling in love
You may already be head over heels for her, but don’t fool yourself into thinking you can’t fall in love with her kids, too. Don’t put walls up and block them out. Children are lovable little humans that can melt your heart and bring an entire new kind of love into your life. And if you do need a reminder of why it’s a good thing to fall in love with a single mom, get a refresher from eHarmony with their “15 Reasons to Date a Single Mom.”