Moving in together can be a make or break step in a relationship that shouldn’t be taken lightly. Whether you are used to living alone or with your BFF, the transition to living with your significant other can be tricky if you aren’t careful.
Here are some ways to make this transition a little easier on both of you.
Now that you’ll be sharing a living space, it is important for you both to contribute to the overall look and feel of the space. Sort through all of your things together to determine which items you want to use and what you want to buy together. Aim for an equal mix of your stuff, your significant other’s items and new things that you select together and be sure to make an effort to compromise where you can in order to help the newcomer into the house feel like the space is theirs.
When shopping for new furniture or artwork, select items that maximize your comfort to create a living space infused with a sense of calm and relaxation. Splurge on a cozy new couch or an electric fireplace to transform the living room into a space where you can unwind and reconnect with one another after a long day.
Living with someone can be rife with conflict if household responsibilities are not agreed upon. Sit down with your partner and make a list of all of the chores that need to be done, room by room. Divide the chores equally, so that each of you agrees to do your fair share of maintenance to keep your home looking great.
Designate one day a week to work on your chores together. It can be helpful for each of you to see that the other is contributing and it can even be a fun way to bond. Turn up your favorite music and get to work. Then treat yourselves to a date night out.
Don’t Hesitate to Outsource
There are some jobs around the house that no one wants to do. When that is the case, don’t hesitate to outsource the work. It’s well worth spending a little money to avoid conflict and resentment. For instance, if both of you are busy and resent spending your time cleaning up after each other, hire a cleaning service to come in as often as you can afford. Or if your partner doesn’t do the lawn maintenance frequently enough, pay a landscaping company to come mow the lawn and trim the bushes. Eliminating some of the stress from your life and your relationship is well worth spending a little extra cash.
Have a Space That’s All Yours
Cohabiting can leave you feeling like you are always “on.” No matter how much you love your partner, spending time alone is a restorative method of self-care. Each of you should carve out a space that is just for you in your new home, a place where you can sit and meditate, read a book or just zone out and scroll through Instagram. It could be an entire room or even a little nook, just as long as it’s all yours.
Don’t Hesitate to Jump In
Moving in together is a big step in a relationship, but don’t let the challenges of it keep you from experiencing the way that it can help take your bond to the next level. By being mindful to make the space equally yours as a couple, delegating chores, outsourcing grunt work and prioritizing alone time by creating some personal space, you can make the transition to cohabiting a little easier.