A partnership is a relationship that requires maintenance through communication. You and your significant other will often come upon difficult situations where each of you has their own desires or strong opinion. The two of you must learn how to talk it out and compromise in a way that is genuine and fair. Here are some common disagreements and some tips on the best way to handle them through compromise.
Date Night Activities
You two have different ideas about what constitutes a good time or a romantic evening. For example, one of you may be a movie buff while the other is a theatre lover, and each wants to see their favorite form of entertainment. Rather than argue over which is better or put the other through something they won’t enjoy, find ways you can combine your respective favorites. Remedy the disparity by attending a theatre show that is based on a movie, so the movie buff can enjoy a cinematic story line and the theatre lover can enjoy the theatrical elements of the show.
If you and your partner co-habitate, it is necessary that you decorate your house together. It is likely that the two of you have different aesthetic tastes and desire specific amenities in your home. The best way to compromise is to sit down together and create a list of what is most important for your dwelling space. Talk about how you want the space to be a visual representation of your partnership. For example, you could decide that your vibe as a couple would represent an aesthetic that is simple and fresh, fun and comfortable or artistic and bohemian. You should individually collect your ideas onto Pinterest boards and have a date night where you share your favorite home looks. This is a way to see if you have styles that match up and similar ideas that you can run with.
You two may run into trouble when you decide what you will do for the holidays. It can be difficult to sacrifice time spent with your family in order to be with your partner’s family. You and your significant other should schedule your holiday plans ahead of time so you can figure out the logistics of travel and timing. Consider splitting your time between families during the holidays or set up a system where you alternate years with each family. Make sure when you have this conversation that you are sensitive to your partner’s feelings, as this is an emotional subject. Show them that you value their family through your willingness to compromise and reconfigure your usual holiday plans.
Money is the most stressful topic when it comes to partnership. It can be difficult to decide how much each of you will contribute to the relationship — gifts, date nights, home expenses and lifestyle costs — especially if there is a big salary difference in your jobs. Talk with your partner about your spending and saving habits, so that they know how you approach money matters. If one of you is a spender and the other is a saver, talk about how you can prioritize your spending and what is important to save for. The two of you could have a joint account that you agree to put a certain amount of money in for savings, while also having individual accounts that you can use for spending. Talk with your partner about what kinds of expenses should be considered joint expenses, so you can split the costs whenever they come up. Use financial tools that will help you keep track of your finances, so you can come to the table ready to share your spending and saving stats.