«

»

Apr 18

Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

For some reason a good portion of the female population tends to go for the bad boys. I certainly was one of those young ladies. In my twenties I once dated a guy that wanted to be exclusive with me. I said, “you are a really nice guy, but……” “Ouch,” he winced and said, “that’s the last thing I want to hear, that I’m a nice guy. Nice guys finish last!”

There is something about wanting what is just a little bit out of reach…..

I just love this video. It illustrates perfectly the dynamic between single girls and the bad boys.

What do you think? Do you agree with the saying, “nice guys finish last?”

5 comments

Skip to comment form

  1. Rosey

    I think they only finish last with the girls they wouldn’t want to really end up with anyway (and those girls usually settle down later and seek out nice guys). I think it’s all about timing. In the end nice guys do (and should) finish right at the top.

  2. Chris

    Nice people don’t make their partners invest – if the woman refuses to invest in the relationship they may never love you back.

    Nice people reward bad behavior – as a result, nice people get walked all over.

    Nice people are too available – we believe, even subconciously, that whatever is scarce, or requires work to obtain, is valuable. The bad boy is always ‘hard to get’, neglecting or inconveniencing their partner, yet girls find them more attractive (seem more valuable) to the confusion of the ‘nice’ guy.

    So as a result of a few psychological crossed wires, winners look like losers and losers look like winners.

    Learn from the divas just a little. Get the woman to invest in you as you invest in them. Reward them when they deserve it and ignore them when they don’t. Don’t let your life revolve around them. This will show them that you are a valuable and attractive person with some self-respect. Then, you can still be a decent person and find love.

    And remember, if the ‘nice’ guy is last, the race isn’t over yet ;)

    Chris (currently single!! but open to love:))

    1. marla

      Great insight Chris!

  3. Jeffrey

    Yes, we always finish last :(

    1. marla

      Rats!!!!!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>